Cheer up folks!!! I read stories about people staying home all the time and scared to leave the house. I have had incontinence for over 10 years. I am now a 55 year old woman who wears diapers and has a wonderful life. I can go most anywhere and remain stealth about my diaper issues. I got used to them, stopped worrying about it and just enjoy life. Most of my girlfriends at work know I have to wear them and are understanding, but the truth of the matter is, most of the time they dont even remember I am wearing them. I dont tell folks that I have a mess in my diaper. Jeez, I just deal with it, which is usually just leaving it there till I have a good place to change. IT is not a big deal. Even if it is BIG ha ha.
My suggestions: Use a high absorbancy diaper with a liner if you are going to be out for a long time. Wear plastic pants over your diaper and control top panty hose over them. This keeps you stealth in most situations.