I am in my 50’s Very shortly after I eat, I have to poop. I can hold it for a few minutes max. This situation I can control to some extent. Other times, without warning, I feel it coming out and cant stop it.
I always wear a thick diaper everywhere I go. Most of the time I stay stealth with an A line skirt or high waisted dress. Plastic pants and control top pantyhose keep the smell and noise down to be undetectable around people. It really isn’t that bad!! Of course I don’t like it, but have learned to live with it. And it isn’t uncomfortable to keep it in my diaper for a while. I will deal with it till I get home to change.